--- product_id: 119887177 title: "Collaborating with the Enemy: How to Work with People You Don't Agree with or Like or Trust" brand: "adam kahane" price: "฿3757" currency: THB in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.co.th/products/119887177-collaborating-with-the-enemy-how-to-work-with-people-you store_origin: TH region: Thailand --- # Engaging insights Collaboration strategies Mindset shifts Collaborating with the Enemy: How to Work with People You Don't Agree with or Like or Trust **Brand:** adam kahane **Price:** ฿3757 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Summary > 🤔 Turn foes into allies with ease! ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** Collaborating with the Enemy: How to Work with People You Don't Agree with or Like or Trust by adam kahane - **How much does it cost?** ฿3757 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.co.th](https://www.desertcart.co.th/products/119887177-collaborating-with-the-enemy-how-to-work-with-people-you) ## Best For - adam kahane enthusiasts ## Why This Product - Trusted adam kahane brand quality - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Key Features - • **Real-World Case Studies:** Learn from practical examples that resonate with your experiences. - • **Empower Your Leadership Skills:** Elevate your influence and effectiveness in any team setting. - • **Transform Conflict into Collaboration:** Unlock the power of teamwork, even with adversaries. - • **Actionable Strategies for Trust Building:** Cultivate trust in challenging relationships. - • **Proven Techniques for Difficult Conversations:** Master the art of dialogue with those you disagree with. ## Overview This paperback offers a comprehensive guide on navigating professional relationships with individuals you may not see eye to eye with. Published on June 5, 2017, it provides actionable insights and strategies to foster collaboration, enhance communication, and build trust, making it an essential read for managers and leaders in today's diverse workplace. ## Description “Adam Kahane worked with us on the future of our country. The four scenarios we built have come to life one after another, and today we are living the best one....Kahane explains how scenario planning can transform the future. In Colombia we can attest that such transformation is really possible.” —Juan Manuel Santos, President of Colombia and Nobel Peace Prize recipient Collaboration is increasingly difficult and increasingly necessary. Often, to get something done that really matters to us, we need to work with people we don’t agree with or like or trust. Adam Kahane has faced this challenge many times, working on big issues like democracy and jobs and climate change and on everyday issues in organizations and families. He has learned that our conventional understanding of collaboration—that it requires a harmonious team that agrees on where it’s going, how it’s going to get there, and who needs to do what—is wrong. Instead, we need a new approach to collaboration that embraces discord, experimentation, and genuine cocreation—which is exactly what Kahane provides in this groundbreaking and timely book. “Kahane shows that people who don’t see eye-to-eye really can come together to solve big challenges. Whether in our businesses, our governments, our communities, or our personal lives, we can all benefit from this smart and timely book.” —Mark Tercek, former President, The Nature Conservancy and coauthor of Nature’s Fortune “Shows us how thinking and seeing differently can help us navigate this challenging landscape. Kahane abandons orthodoxy in taking on the most intransigent problems, showing us the path to effective action in a complex world.” —James Gimian, coauthor of The Rules of Victory “ Collaborating with the Enemy belongs on the same shelf as Sun Tzu’s The Art of War and Machiavelli’s The Prince .” —Stephen Huddart, President, The J.W. McConnell Family Foundation ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Dimensions | 5.51 x 0.47 x 8.5 inches | | Edition | 1st | | Isbn 10 | 1626568227 | | Isbn 13 | 978-1626568228 | | Item Weight | 7 ounces | | Language | English | | Print Length | 160 pages | | Publication Date | June 5, 2017 | | Publisher | Berrett-Koehler Publishers | ## Images ![Collaborating with the Enemy: How to Work with People You Don't Agree with or Like or Trust - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71vyWZYwctL.jpg) ## Available Options This product comes in different **Format** options. ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ This is an easy to read but profound clarification of the versatility needed to approach life's difficult situations *by on Reviewed in the United States June 13, 2017* Immediately after reading the first paragraph of the forward by Peter Block and then the first chapter of Adam Kahane's book, I knew I was "hooked"!This is an easy to read but profound clarification of the versatility needed to approach life's difficult situations.Across my six decades of consulting I have been frustrated by the cyclical ascendancy of various forms of collaboration (9/9, consensus, self-managed teams) as the only true way! The Forest Service in the USA was once sold on the notion that all managers should manage 9/9, as was the City of Calgary in the late 1960s. I had the privilege of spending a couple years there helping them recover from the notion that every situation could or should be managed in the same way.As I write this review I am very aware that Kahane's international conflict experience goes way beyond my experience in business and community development. I do not intend to minimize his broad scale by my more limited scope, but to indicate what appears to be a similarity.His four styles seem very similar to the Jay Hall conflict management styles. I have used Hall's instrument with several thousand people and have trained them in how to effectively use each of the styles in an effective way.One of my contracts was with an industry that was the first American manufacturing plant to open with self-managed teams. I started to work with them as closure looked imminent in the early 80's due to an appalling lack of productivity. These errors have been repeated by Volvo and by Saturn, among many others. We had to help them get the other styles honored and in place to succeed. We built on the autonomy intended by self-management by especially putting in place more clarity about authority and single-point decision-making which had been absent.It is my belief that Jay Hall's mistake was to idolize collaboration (as in the 9/9 as the desired style). This thus led to the tendency to the enemyfying (more about this word later ) of other styles. Kahane brilliantly avoids this and supports versatility. Further he spells out the steps one needs to take to successfully do this collaboration when appropriate!He mentions the third party possibility. Having been a third-party between people who deeply mistrusted and disliked each other dozens of times, we began by having their authorities above them tell them that they did not ever have to like each other! They simply had to work together more effectively. Of course, many (but not all) of them came to enjoy working with each other eventually.Gems are spread throughout this book. In various ways he mentions the common "rational" style where experts develop solutions and then promulgate these throughout an organization with the resulting familiar problems, and even failures, in application. By contrast, in his chapter called, "The Second Stretch", he references a statement by the Columbian President Juan Manual Santos in which he, in launching a report developed in the organization of American states by 46 leaders (on the drug phenomenon in the Americas), says, "The four scenarios are not the recommendations of what should happen or forecast of what will happen; they simply provide us with realistic options without prejudices or dogmas". Kahane further quotes José Miguel Insulza, the Secretary General of the OAS, saying 16 months later, "The report had a huge immediate impact".This approach reflects what Ronald Lippitt and Charles Jung had formulated in 1960: "Knowledge Retrieval/Implication Derivation". That is to say that knowledge experts and leaders retrieve information for people working on issues. The experts do not tell them what the implications are. They may offer opinions and even recommendations, but these also must be seen in a "knowledge retrieval" way and not as directives. It is the task of the people working the problem to derive implications with the benefit of having knowledge retrieved, such as successful (or failed) practices or important concepts! This almost completely eliminates push back to the knowledge such as in the statement "The expert's do not understand our situation".Kahane has nailed it! It's not the job of the experts to understand situational details where application is expected. It's their job to bring possibilities to the problem solvers who live in the situation every day!A complete review could be written about the spiritual dimensions of this book. For instance, I was caught off guard by his use of the word "enemyfying"! Yes I have done that, and in the current political situation, am doing that! Yes I have distanced those who hold views very different from my own by seeing them as the 'impossible to converse with' enemy. As a student of Howard Thurman, "The godfather of the civil rights movement", I was touched continually by the connective reach in Kahane's stories. The Latin root for religious means "to bind together- to connect"! In any profound "religious" sense, it includes reaching out for connection with the enemy!Practical and applicable! This book will help any practitioner more clearly see these alternatives and understand when and how collaboration may be effective. Plus Kahane, with his vast experience and unique capacity to learn from that experience, outlines how to do it in ways I have not seen spelled out so succinctly before.Robert P. CrosbyCreator, in 1973, of the first Masters in the Applied Behavioral Sciences degree. His latest business book is, "Cultural Change in Organizations".Founder, 1969, LIOS, Leadership Institute of Spokane/Seattle with it’s subsequent Alcoa Corporate Graduate Masters Program. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ "Love one another as I have loved you” and the toughest one of them all *by on Reviewed in the United States June 12, 2017* The essential teachings of Jesus for me is The Sermon on the Mount: "Love your neighbor as yourself", “Love Your Enemy as yourself”, "Love one another as I have loved you” and the toughest one of them all: "Love yourself as I (Jesus) have loved you". Very simple but so difficult to practice.Adam Kahane’s book “Collaborating with the Enemy” brings this much closer and makes it more possible to work with these concepts in our organizations and everyday life. Collaborating with the Enemy and people I don’t trust shocks us out of selfishness, worldliness, self-absorbed, self-identified, self-righteous, self-absorbed and habitual ways.Adam’s call for collaborating with the enemy is the plausible step. It helped me understand how to bridge it in a practical way. First, it is a choice and not having one right answer is freeing and it does leave room for other’s right answers.Being in branding and marketing I am very accustomed to research, strategy, plan of action, deployment, results, etc. Shifting in thinking from rational ordering of SWOT analysis, problem-solution-plan-results way of being and allowing the “Presencing” of the U to happen. It is freeing when Adam says, often it’s not what we do but how we do it. Equally freeing, understanding what Adam explains “Stretched” collaboration and this is not the magic pill, collaboration is not always the only option and we still have the options to adopt, force or exit.The philosopher Gurdjieff in the turn of this century warned, humanity had entered a precarious new period in its evolution. Humanity as we know it would be destroyed, Gurdjieff warned, unless the 'wisdom' of the East and the 'energy' of the West were harnessed and used harmoniously—he introduced to the West a unique and powerful esoteric teaching of self-transformation. Gurdjieff called it The Fourth Way.Adam Kahane’s “Collaborating with the Enemy” will help humanity in this direction. It is a must read for anyone who is interested in gaining better insights and the tools to improve their collaborative efforts in their life both personal and corporate / organizations. The exercises at the end of each chapter makes it easy to practice and implement the ideas. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Helpful *by on Reviewed in the United States January 30, 2026* I loved this book. I listened to the audiobook first and when I got to Cahpter 3, i decided to buy the book. I highly suggest reading it even if you dont have a leadership type role. I picked it up because there are coworkers I dislike. 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