Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us

Psychological understanding why we are attracted to people of a certain type, where it can be abuse, narcissistic behaviour and where acceptable relationship dynamics.. Rosenberg talks of Emotional Manipulators and Codependent Relationship patterns and how we need to understand and overcome our own painful mental blocks before we can find truly satisfying and healthy love partnerships Very well written and simple way of explaining so a layperson can comprehend the dynamics of unhealthy relationship patterns. A must for those in therapy, counseling, education and chemical dependency fields. And for those in Narcissistic relations or suspect they in one.. or anyone interested in human relationships.

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A great book with very relevant psychological information especially if you have co dependent traits, have struggled in relationships and want to understand why it was happening and what is the way out. It also contains some very important information about some other major psychological disorders that people with co dependency traits might run into. It also contains some basic information about the practice of psychotherapy like trasference and counter transference. I would have given the book 5 stars but there was some repetition which could have been avoided in my opinion. Overall a great book!

Great book..... ;)

As a Recovering Codependent, I found this text very illuminating and life changing. While I will not say that it was easy reading it, although it was written in layman's terms, it did give me hope for the future, helped me find a bit more of Me and was a welcome part of my life journey. Thankyou.

Being at the very beginning of a changing life process, this book is a lighthouse. A pure act of Love.

I've read tons of books on relationships and psychology and this is an indispensible book if you are trying to find a positive, long-term relationship or are trying to understand why your past (or present) relationships end badly. Not only does Mr. Rosenberg describe different personalities, he gives practical (and religion neutral) advice as to why we attract and are attracted to the people we do and why we find ourselves having positive or negative relationships. He gives clear examples and, (unlike the vast majority of self-help books on relationships that provide descriptions but no course of action) gives clear, practical advice as to what one can do to find the person with whom one can have a kind, loving, supportive, positive and fulfilling relationship. This book provides the best advise I have ever read or heard that clearly explains what to do, what to watch out for and how to evaluate prospective long-term healthy partnerships. Mr. Rosenberg clearly and simply explains why we attract the people we do and if we are not finding ourselves in the type of relationship we want, what we must do to change. He explains why it is important to examine and understand ourselves, our own behavior and our own needs first in order to be able to sort the wheat from the chaff and end up with the relationship we want. So, if you are frustrated that all of your relationships end badly, if you always find your own needs not being met, if you end up feeling taken advantage of or abused - read this book! A long and happy relationship or marriage can be had by first understanding ourselves, then being the type of person we need to be to attract they type of partner we dream of having. This book helped me better understand the reasons and processes whereby my first marriage ended in unhappiness, pain and disaster! After reading this book I could clearly see how I changed myself (with much professional and peer help) and was able to attract the terriffic, kind, loving, honest and exciting man I have been married to for 25 years! I have shared this book with friends and family who have asked us how we have been happily together for 28 years. Before we even met, we had both examined and worked at understanding ourselves, learned what we could be as a good partner and what we needed in a partner in order to be happy. Without the benefit of this book, we had made the changes necessary (learned from the mistakes of our past) and conciously, with clarity and patience, worked at being the kind of person we needed to be then sought out an equal partner. It would have been most helpful to have had this book back then. It clearly describes the process we stumbled upon to find the right mate to have a successful, happy marriage. We somehow did exactly what this book spells out - we became the type of person that would attract the type of partner we dreamed of having. We still work at being the right partner every day, so I agree with and believe wholeheartedly with the advice in this book! It works, it really, really works!

This is a great read for anyone in a relationship of this type or who has friends or family that are. It's really good, practical information written in easy to understand language. Anxiously awaiting the next soon to be published book.

Very interesting read that gives a fascinating insight into the human mind and why we act like we do. Wonderful writing style.