--- product_id: 21246320 title: "Why Do I Do That?: Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives" price: "฿1430" currency: THB in_stock: true reviews_count: 12 url: https://www.desertcart.co.th/products/21246320-why-do-i-do-that-psychological-defense-mechanisms-and-hidden store_origin: TH region: Thailand --- # Why Do I Do That?: Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives **Price:** ฿1430 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** Why Do I Do That?: Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives - **How much does it cost?** ฿1430 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.co.th](https://www.desertcart.co.th/products/21246320-why-do-i-do-that-psychological-defense-mechanisms-and-hidden) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description Why Do I Do That?: Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives [Burgo Ph.D., Joseph] on desertcart.com. *FREE* shipping on qualifying offers. Why Do I Do That?: Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives Review: Great help great book - My son is 18, I am 49. This book says all the things we feel and think and couldn't put it in words. This really is a great book Review: Very interesting and readable self-help book - I came to this self-help book through Dr. Burgo’s honest and insightful blog “After Psychotherapy.” I’ve long been fascinated by the topic of psychological defense mechanisms, which I first learned about in therapy and later studied in psych classes. I think they represent one of the more helpful topics discussed in psychotherapy. Dr. Burgo explains the role of the basic defenses with clear descriptions and relatable examples culled from his 30+ years in practice. Some, like repression and denial, have become part of our general lexicon, but others, such as splitting and displacement, are lesser known. Although we are often unaware of it, all of us rely on defenses (to a greater or lesser degree) to shield ourselves from emotional pain. Our personalities are partly determined by which ones we employ. They only become problematic for us and interfere with our relationships when we overuse them. If we find ourselves doing so, it can be helpful to explore feelings that are buried beneath the surface, to see why we may be relying so heavily on defenses mechanisms. While this may be best done in therapy, it is possible to do it on our own to some extent, and Why Do I Do That? facilitates this self-exploration. Throughout the book, Dr. Burgo gently encourages us to peel back our protective layers and face what’s there, however unattractive or uncomfortable those thoughts and feelings might be, in order to discover what’s behind our undesired behaviors. The goal is to gradually be able to accept a broad range of emotions so that we no longer have the need to cover them up. Burgo suggests that once we determine not only which defenses we are using, but more importantly why, we can begin to reduce their use and become more honest and successful in our relationships. ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #21,613 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #55 in Emotional Mental Health #170 in Self-Esteem (Books) #561 in Personal Transformation Self-Help | | Customer Reviews | 4.6 4.6 out of 5 stars (1,252) | | Dimensions | 6 x 0.61 x 9 inches | | ISBN-10 | 0988443120 | | ISBN-13 | 978-0988443129 | | Item Weight | 12.6 ounces | | Language | English | | Print length | 242 pages | | Publication date | October 26, 2012 | | Publisher | New Rise Press | ## Images ![Why Do I Do That?: Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61GXMPjtRmL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Great help great book *by W***F on February 18, 2026* My son is 18, I am 49. This book says all the things we feel and think and couldn't put it in words. This really is a great book ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Very interesting and readable self-help book *by E***I on January 22, 2014* I came to this self-help book through Dr. Burgo’s honest and insightful blog “After Psychotherapy.” I’ve long been fascinated by the topic of psychological defense mechanisms, which I first learned about in therapy and later studied in psych classes. I think they represent one of the more helpful topics discussed in psychotherapy. Dr. Burgo explains the role of the basic defenses with clear descriptions and relatable examples culled from his 30+ years in practice. Some, like repression and denial, have become part of our general lexicon, but others, such as splitting and displacement, are lesser known. Although we are often unaware of it, all of us rely on defenses (to a greater or lesser degree) to shield ourselves from emotional pain. Our personalities are partly determined by which ones we employ. They only become problematic for us and interfere with our relationships when we overuse them. If we find ourselves doing so, it can be helpful to explore feelings that are buried beneath the surface, to see why we may be relying so heavily on defenses mechanisms. While this may be best done in therapy, it is possible to do it on our own to some extent, and Why Do I Do That? facilitates this self-exploration. Throughout the book, Dr. Burgo gently encourages us to peel back our protective layers and face what’s there, however unattractive or uncomfortable those thoughts and feelings might be, in order to discover what’s behind our undesired behaviors. The goal is to gradually be able to accept a broad range of emotions so that we no longer have the need to cover them up. Burgo suggests that once we determine not only which defenses we are using, but more importantly why, we can begin to reduce their use and become more honest and successful in our relationships. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ More self-discovery than self-help. *by R***D on April 21, 2014* Overall a great book that covers various defense mechanisms. The author presents the info in a clear manner and provides relevant examples to clarify each point. He delves into the root causes of how we develop defense mechanisms and addresses the impact they have on our behavior. Ultimately, the author discusses how to overcome our defense mechanisms by applying techniques such as focusing on breathing. Pros: - Great coverage of the material presented. - Interesting dissection of the root causes of defense mechanisms. - Useful exercises to help the reader discover which defense mechanisms apply to him. Cons: - The material was presented in a fashion that seemed slightly haphazard. The author's references seemed to jump around a bit. - The topics weren't indexed. So if I just wanted to look up anger, I had to read sections that didn't apply. - Not enough time was spent on the "fixes". Coverage of how to overcome defense mechanisms was relegated to the last section. Nevertheless, I highly recommend this for someone looking to discover why people behave the way they do. ## Frequently Bought Together - Why Do I Do That?: Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives - How to Stop Being Toxic: Quit Manipulative Behaviors, Avoid Hurting the People You Love, and Start Healthy Relationships - How to Listen, Hear, and Validate: Break Through Invisible Barriers and Transform Your Relationships (How to be More Likable and Charismatic) --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.co.th/products/21246320-why-do-i-do-that-psychological-defense-mechanisms-and-hidden](https://www.desertcart.co.th/products/21246320-why-do-i-do-that-psychological-defense-mechanisms-and-hidden) --- *Product available on Desertcart Thailand* *Store origin: TH* *Last updated: 2026-04-27*