The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

Great book easy to read I highly recommend it recommend

Harriet Lerner has done it again with The Dance of Connection! Not only is it incredibly readable (as indicated by the amount of highlighting I've done), but it is abundantly practical and applicable. She provides a wealth of examples from her professional practice and in fact her own life, which I love. She doesn't create simplistic formulas for connecting, rather she share principles, enriched by her own deep wisdom and the outcomes that result when used effectively. But she is also willing to admit that her methods are not magic wands that will save every marriage or heal every relationship. Ultimately she makes it clear through her myriad of stories and examples that the dance of connection begins and ends with the connection we have with ourselves. Her advice is not about changing or fixing others. It is about understanding our own drives, motivations and fears. It is about reconnecting with a deep wisdom we almost all possess but often lose touch with. And it is about giving others the dignity and respect they deserve even when we've convinced ourselves they don't deserve it. I love this book and have already recommended it to others. It is a resource I will refer to again and again, savoring it each time. Thank you!!

When I bought this book I was Mad, Frustrated and Desperate to find a solution on how to connect with co-workers and family. Listening to it while traveling back and forth to work helped me with methods to approach co-workers. There was one section that I truly felt she was telling my story and the end result was a confirmation that the problem is not always me but the other person of which I have no control. The connection is knowing what or who you have control over. I found the book easy to listen to and re-affirming that connecting was possible when taking the correct approach to others.

Fabulous book with profound advice. This should be a must read for anyone who wants to connect in a meaningful way with others

Great insight into our lives. Harriet is a fantastic writer and writes to all regarding your family, friends, relationships, and the basis of how you were raised, and how your parents' upbringing influenced how you are today. This book is one you should read over and over again. There is too much to take in with one pass. She gets it! Everyone will take something from this book - read it again in a couple of months and I am sure you will get another little gem of (oh! That is so why I do ________ (fill in blanks)) This is a keeper, and I would recommend it as gifts for all the people you love - NOT to change them, but for a deeper understanding of who they are, who their parents, grandparents, relatives, etc. are. This is NOT really a self-help book, more of an insightful guide to human nature, with Aha! moments sprinkled in. Quick, easy read, hard to put down.

Liked the book

Nothing new here if you've read her other books. I preferred Dance of Intimacy.

I am sure that every human being will find some tips how to reflect on their own communication style and find novel ideas. Great value!

Of all the self-help books I have read, I can easily say that Harriet Lerner’s books are the most useful. She has a way of saying things that I think most people can relate to. But more than that is that she makes the changes that we need to make in ourselves seem possible and entirely worthwhile.

This book is spot on and explains a lot about emotions vs reactions. Recommended

I chose this rating because the book resonated with me and helped me understand better historical/family connections to my own behaviour, insecurities, strengths and failings. I think the book will be appreciated by people trying to understand complexities in life and relationships and is useful to men as well as women

I loved the book. It is very insightful and easy to read. I am going to read it again. And again, and again.

Ein wirklich tolles Buch, aber es entfaltet seine wahre Größe vor allem bei Leserinnen. Natürlich gibts es auch viele grundsätzliche Impulse, von denen beide Geschlechter partizipieren können, aber der Hauptaugenmerk wird auf Frauen gelegt. Trotzdem 5/5